Fear of writing can be divided into two groups. The paralyzing fear you have before you even start to write while your mind is telling you: I’m boring, I’m not original, nobody will like it, It is pointless, I have nothing to write, I can’t write, I suck as a writer.
The second destructive force is what is known as The Writer’s Block, which is the same thing that happens to you when you’re not immersed in your story enough and you don’t know your characters well. You tell yourself: I’m boring, I’m not original, nobody will like it, It is pointless, I have nothing to write, I can’t write, I suck as a writer.
Fear of writing can be narrowed down to one naked truth. It is everything that keeps you away from finishing your draft.
There are many blogs that attack this problem by trying to reverse engineer the fear and psychoanalyze the source of it, but the truth is that being aware isn’t going to solve the problem and get you going.
What is the opposite of fear? Is it courage, as many movies and stories tell us? Well, courage can be useful for a single timed task when a leap of faith is needed. But as for the never ending process of writing and rewriting,
I’ve found that the most effective opposite of fear is love.
Love will keep you going in sickness and in health because when you love doing something it is not a job anymore, it’s a passion. It is not difficult but rather challenging, it is not something you have to do but something you wait for, and it is something you put your heart into instead of over thinking and reaching nowhere near the first draft.
How do you fall in love with writing?
Consider a romantic relationship. What words can you attribute to that feeling? Fun, excitement, new experiences, self discovery, mutual goals, shared dreams, caring, lust, passion, etc. What happen when you write? You sit in front or your computer, on a chair, in a room or a café, and you type on a plastic keyboard. It doesn’t sound much like a love to me. It sounds more like your day job. How can you go on an emotional journey with your characters if you sit and type like a white collar monkey?
I discovered that the best way to write a story is being in the story, is by embodying the journey yourself, is by walking and moving and even, yes even going back to writing with pen and paper. You stimulate your senses and create creative energy.
Falling in love with writing can keep you going and bring back the fun in the process. Just like that time in high school when you wrote poems in your notebook without the fear of reaching a daily word count, a deadline or an artistic level.
In this blog I’ll share my discoveries while writing my first novel and searching for a way to love writing once again.